I wish I knew about it earlier, that it was a total case of rebound.
I wish the word rebound came up a little earlier.
I feel flattered. My ego is up, up here we go. Okay hold on a sec. My point is, I shouldn’t have assumed too much.
Now I’m like, maybe it was the best thing that has ever happened. Some sort of a blessing in disguise.

I honestly think the whole idea of using anyone as a rebound is a horrible thing to do. I’ve had a fair share of issues with rebounds, and I’m pretty proud of myself that I’ve learned how to not jump into something to ease the pain from the one you love. I’ve done some crazy things to get over something, and manipulating someone else’s feelings is a terrible and selfish thing to do. I’ve never been in a rebound relationship before,but I can imagine how horrible it would feel to be mislead and used. To always feel out of place, and caught in a chase; so bad that even when they’re standing right next to you, you know the heart belongs to someone else.

Trust your guts. I think the most ideal rebound would be an ex who willingly throws themselves at you. Its like, well I’m heartbroken and I need someone; whatever comes free of charge (FOC) and please call me (PCM). You’re at the top of your game, in a win-win situation; when desperation calls. You need someone to take  your mind of things, you need someone to break your usual routine, you need a replacement, you need a sponge to absorb, and you just need someone to help you move on. Usually, rebound works. They do a great job in helping you live in denial for a long while, and before you know it you’ll be over the break up. On a contrary, rebound has its pros as well; if you can’t get over your ex no matter how far you run and hide, when she walks away you’ll come running back knowing you’ve lost the one thing that means the world to you.

Nobody can ever walk away from the ones they truly love.
You can try and run as far as you can, but nah it’ll never work.
Rebounds sort of answers all your troubles and works as a panadol; a temporary relief of whatever pain. My only advice, treat others how you want to be treated. Its heartbreaking to feel rejected and defeated.To feel like you’ve finally gain your pride and you lose it the next minute when they wake up realizing you’re someone they can totally live without. Nobody likes feeling like a trash. Like a toy.

What is a rebound relationship?

A relationship usually short in duration and used to help mend the broken heart.’ In other words, it can be called a bounce back relationship or a relationship formed too quickly after the breakup of a significant love relationship. Many times people involved in relationships also get into rebound relationships if they want their existing relationships to end especially when they have already emotionally distanced themselves from their partners. A rebound relationship is a distraction. It is a connection to another person that keeps us from having to experience the full extent of the emotional pain of our resent break – up. It is a misguided attempt to move on with our lives. Many people will jump back into the dating scene because they fear being alone. It can be a a lot more fun that dealing with the misery of a recently broken heart. ”

This is the biggest problem in a rebound relationship. Usually someone ends up being used and hurt as a result. If you are in a relationship to distract yourself from the pain of a broken heart then you are using another person. More than likely when that person has served their purpose you will move on, leaving them to pick up the pieces.

Signs of identifying a Rebound Relationship.

1. Getting into a Relationship too fast: This is the most common sign of a rebound relationship.  It may act as a distraction or a form of catharsis, but remember not to allow your sense of urgency to rush in the wrong direction causing further heart break.
2. Expecting the Qualities of Ex : You spend most of your time talking about your ex without realizing. Another common sign is expecting your new partner to make up for the shortcomings and mistakes of the old partner or expect him to have the qualities and traits you admired in your previous lover. It is also a normal tendency among many to draw comparisons between your current and ex and talk openly about it. This type of behavior can make a person to be too demanding and ruin the new relationship too and end up being miserable.
3. Using Others as Rebound for self satisfaction or as a Tool Of Jealousy: Many people get into a rebound mode with the intention of hurting their ex or to show that they do not matter anymore without any intention of commitment or involvement and masking the purpose with the new person involved. It can be either way and usually someone ends up being used or hurt as a result because once the purpose of the rebound relationship is served that person would be abandoned. Beware of re bounders who may use you distract themselves from the pain of a broken heart and then move on leaving you to pick up the pieces. It is always best to be honest with your new relationship partner about your intentions. If you find yourself being used by a re bounder who has recently broken off a long term relationship it is best to let the relationship develop slowly and not allow your new partner to set the pace fast.
4. Unhappiness: Many times people who get into rebound relationships as a way to hit back at those who abandoned them. They may show themselves as outwardly happy when actually they feel miserable and guilty that they are doing something wrong. If you are in a relationship to soon and unhappy with the present partner then it is probably a rebound fling you are into.
5. Not able to forget Ex: This is another prominent sign that though you may have jumped into a new relationship soon after your breakup or divorce you keep thinking of your ex more than your current partner because you have not fallen out of love with your ex still. One may also not feel the same or better comfort level with the new partner because of this and may end up drawing comparisons between partner’s thereby ruining the new relationship with your own hands. If the old relationship interferes with the progress of a new relationship then chances are that you’re stuck in a rebound. Similarly, if you are involved with someone who had a recent break up and he/she keeps rehashing problems from the past relationship within the new relationship this is a clear sign that they haven’t moved on enough to fall in love again. It also could be a sign of rebound affair if you prefer frequenting places you have gone with your ex along with your new partner. As long as you harbor feelings for an old love a new love can’t happen. According to Feng Shui you have to make way for the new by clearing the old.

Had a really good session at the gym today. Its gonna be a pretty hectic week ahead, more intense gym sessions, made my facial and mani/pedi appointments just in time before CNY, accepting my first advertorial with La Senza with free goodies(I’ve no idea what’s new in store!) and to be honest I’m not too sure how ready I am to be back in media events. We shall see what happens. Till then, stay happy folks!

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1. The Break Up.
2. Tempered Men.
3. Love Is The Music.

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